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At 10:46am on October 20, 2009, B. Crittenden Freeman said…
Hello Avraham, This is B. Crittenden Freeman. Haven't heard fro you on the Red Pill Training site. Would love to read & hear from others. Can you connect with us here?
At 11:26am on July 9, 2009, Aaron (Al) Lewis said…
Peace and power to you,
At 9:26am on July 9, 2009, Aaron (Al) Lewis said…
Excepts from, “Meeting The Shadow”.

The way parents influence their children most deeply, however, is by example. Children instinctively observe the choices their parents make, the freedom and pleasures they allow themselves, the talents they develop, the abilities they ignore, and the rules they follow. All of this has a profound effect on children. “This is how to live. This is how to get through life.” Whether the child accepts of rejects their parent’s model or rebel against it, this early socialization plays a significant role.


A child’s reaction to society’s edicts goes through a number of predictable stages. Typically, the first response is to hide forbidden behaviors from the parents. The child thinks angry thoughts, but does not speak them out loud. He explores his body in the privacy of his room. He teases his younger siblings when his parents are away. Eventually the child comes to the conclusion that some thoughts and feelings are so unacceptable that they should be eliminated, so he constructs an imaginary parent in his head to police his thoughts and activities, a part of the mind that psychologist call “super ego”. Now whenever a child has a forbidden thought or indulges in an “unacceptable” behavior, he experiences a self administered jolt of anxiety.
This is so unpleasant that the child puts to sleep those forbidden parts of himself - in Freudian terms, he represses them. The ultimate price of his obedience is a loss of wholeness.

To fill the void, the child creates a “false self”. a character that serves a double purpose: it camouflages those parts of his being that he has repressed and protects him from further injury. A child brought up by a sexually repressive, distant mother, for instance, may become a “tough guy.” He tells himself,”I don’t care if my mother isn’t very affectionate. I don’t need that mushy stuff. I can make it on my own. And another thing - I think sex is dirty!” Eventually he applies this patterned response to all situations. No matter who tries to get close to him, he erects the same barricade. In later years when he overcomes his reluctance to getting involved in a love relationship, it is likely that he will criticize his partner for her desire for intimacy and her intact sexuality: “Why do you want so much contact and why are you so obsessed with sex? It’s not normal!”

A different child might react to a similar upbringing in an opposite manner, exaggerating his problem in the hope that someone will come to his rescue: “Poor me, I am hurt. I am deeply wounded. I need someone to take care of me.” Yet another child might become a hoarder, striving to hold on to every bit of love and food and material goods that comes his way out of the certain knowledge that there is never enough. But, whatever the nature the nature of the false self, its original purpose is the same: to minimize the pain the pain of losing the child original, God-given wholeness.






At some point in a child's life, however this ingenious form of self protection becomes the cause of further wounding as the child is criticized for having these negative traits. Others condemn him for being distant or needy or self centered or fat or stingy. His attackers don’t see the wound he is trying to protect, and they don’t appreciate the clever nature of his defenses: all they see is the neurotic side of his personality. He is deemed inferior, he is less than whole.

Now the child is caught in a bind. He needs to hold o to his adaptive character traits, because they serve a useful purpose, but he doesn’t want to be rejected. What can he do?

The above is an excerpt from a book edited by Zweig and Abram's, Meeting The Shadow. I was taken with how closely the author of this article, Harville Hendrick, thesis on shadow correlates to how the collective shadow shows up especially in the relationships between so called black people and so called white people.

If you overlay the children represented in Hendrick's concept of the individual's shadow and how it is born, and how it reacts to the lost of wholeness and the associated reactions, thoughts and feelings onto the "race issue" you may see similar patterns emerging in the collective. This is indicative of something. Most people are to afraid or ashamed or even embarrassed to admit what it may mean. What do you think?
 
 
 

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